I’m a Former Fat Kid

Hey all,

So as I’ve mentioned before, I went to school to study counseling psychology (specifically I specialized in Sport and Health psychology), why? because I dealt with a lot of bullying and emotional abuse from friends, peers, and even my family members growing up.

During my studies, I came across this phenomenon called “Former Fat Kid Syndrome” (a.k.a. FFK). Go ahead and Google it. Turns out, a lot of people struggled the way I did and the way you are right now. Some people got healthy, some people started and never continued documenting what happened, and some people talk about things that they are scared of now that they’re “skinny”. I’ve seen a ton of blogs, Youtube videos, and other websites where people tell their stories. It’s really inspiring! But also eye-opening…

Here is my ultimate words of wisdom to you guys: if you aren’t happy with who you are right now, how are you going to be happy with yourself if you lose (for example) 40 pounds?

There is something to be said about how our confidence and self-esteem is closely tied with our physical appearance, BUT losing weight does not automatically mean you will be happy. Sometimes we need to work on ourselves on the inside FIRST before we can truly appreciate what is happening on the outside. Is this getting too fluffy?

Think about it this way:

I’ve read stories where women who have lost a significant amount of weight (and they can blend in like “normal” weight people) don’t know how to react when they have a group of friends who make fun of fat people. Am I supposed to speak up and say I was a fat person too? Am I supposed to run to defend the person they’re bullying? My friends have no idea that when they are making fun of that stranger, they are also making fun of me…

I’ve read stories where, even AFTER losing 50 pounds, adults can still feel horrible about themselves because their family members will always consider them the fat person in the family. No matter what I do to prove myself, I am always the butt of the joke at home; even though I am a grown adult…

I’ve read stories where newly engaged couples are scared to tell their significant other: hey, I used to be fat. There’s still a sense of shame and stigma. Maybe you won’t like me anymore if you found out that I was fat. I’m still scared that I could turn back into the way I looked before and you’ll want to leave me…

I try to keep my blogs as light and simple as possible; sorry if this is feeling too deep right now. But this is a serious dilemma that ANYONE who is on a weight loss journey is at risk for. Bottom line, becoming physically healthy and fit does not mean your mentality will automatically become healthy as well. Take a moment for yourself to consider if JUST losing weight will really make you happy? Maybe there are friends you need to confront or maybe there are parents or family members you need to reach out to because you really just want emotional support NO MATTER what you look like. Maybe we just need to learn a nicer way to speak to ourselves and others so we aren’t perpetuating those horrible memories of being bullied. Well, I guess this is just a lot of “maybes”…

Let me know what you think! How we can help Former Fat Kid Syndrome?

Thanks for reading along!
Christine